widows grieve grieving
What is grief?*
One of the most difficult but valuable lessons
we humans can learn is to accept grief
as a natural response of the body
and mind to a traumatic loss.
Grief: Intense mental
anguish; deep remorse, acute sorrow, or the like.
(The American Heritage
Dictionary of the English Language, 1976)
Helen Fitzgerald, CT, Training Director, American
Hospice Foundation, says:
"Grief is experienced whenever you lose something important to you.
Grief is so powerful that people sometimes look for ways to go
rather than experience it. This approach will not work.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to work through grief
express your feelings."
"Bereavement is generally used to refer to a
grief is generally used to refer to the reaction to that loss."
"They" say, "To
know grief is to accept it..."
is NOT to say that accepting grief is ever easy.
This all takes patience
and time. But the more you learn about grief,
including its stages, symptoms and its many variations of behavior,
the more likely you will
emerge from grief in reasonable time,
rather than remaining
stuck in it forever.
And "graduation" from grief will be more complete and satisfying.
If I could, I would help you all skip through grief without pain. I
But I hope my book, my websites, my blog and my new newsletter
will help allay your fears and anxieties to some
making the road to recovery less formidable.
process and the universality of widowhood,
also may help you
by increasing your self-assurance.
Just learning that you will survive will help you survive.
begin to find your way through the grief process,
you will know you are capable of much more
than you were before,
and much more than you thought you were.
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Why learn more? I say it is
which increases anxiety,
increases the effects of grief.
increases self assurance,
which increases tolerance of grief.
When you read about the millions of women (and men) who have
what you are going through, you will learn to be more patient with yourself.
Just read the "messages" from widows just like you on this support
http://www.sslf.org/forum Join in the discussion. It
Have you asked yourself any of these questions?
"Am I going crazy?"
"Am I dying?"
"Am I imagining
"Am I losing my
"Am I the only person
to have known such pain?"
(In my book you'll find the answers are: "No, No, No, No, No and Yes!")
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Symptoms of Grief:
From For Widows Only!
Difficulty making decisions,
large and small
Absent-mindedness and general confusion
and pains, anywhere or everywhere
+ panic attacks
+ fear of leaving home
Disorientation, as though viewing life from another world
+ loss of appetite
obsession with junk food
sleeping, fear of falling asleep
+ sleeping too much
+ keeping odd hours
Despair, deep depression
+ laughing uncontrollably
+ crying uncontrollably
endangering life by careless driving, dangerous
of alcohol, drugs
Read more about these symptoms in
excerpts from For
healed of a suffering only by experiencing it to the full."
by Marcel Proust
Ask any newer
widow. She will say, "Grief is HELL!"